my fiance is joining the navy, he is going to be doing submarine electronics i believe?
We got married on Christmas Eve and leaves in early January for training camp. that school is a very long period of over 6 months, I’ll be able to live with him at school, it will be for so long? and really the tip of being a military wife would be much appreciated, and please tell me don’tt my husband will cheat ports every time I hear it all the time, and I can honestly that this will not happen, we are in love. so any tips or advice would be great!
no u can’t live with him wile he’s in camp…….and since hes gonna b on a boat(sub)…u won’t see him very much…..
If his school after basic is longer than 20 weeks you’ll be able to use his BAH to live off-base so he can see you when he’s done with class. It’ll take a while for that process to go through.
As for him cheating on you or anything like that; don’t worry, he’ll be on a submarine. Submarines don’t go to ports, they sit out in the middle of the ocean until they come back 6 months later. You’ll only get to see him half the year, be ready for that.
Wow!! is all I can say to the responses you received already. My son is an ET on a submarine and yes his school after basic was quite long. That and yes, you can manage to go live where he is at which if I remember correctly was at the Naval Submarine Base New London, Connecticut. The real problem with this is the money. He will receive his BAH and all of that but for those first two moves if your going to where his school is and his first duty station you’re probably going to have to foot much of that cost upfront for yourself. That and while he is in school guess what comes first, school, not you. All I am saying is it may not be the happy eventful time we think it may be at the moment. And my son has never just “floated” in the ocean on his submarine for six months either. Within a month’s time he calls me from Hawaii, then Japan, then somewhere in the middle east and then from his home port and other places in between we can imagine so they do make port and deployments are 3 months out and 3 months in and yes, I can only speak for what he is doing but I am sure the rest of the Navy and sub fleet is out of whack and my son’s sub is the exception to the rule. As for people telling you that he will cheat well that is up to him. Many do, many more do not and that is up to the kind of relationship you two have. The problem with older folks is we sort of have been there and done that and know that you are in love now but that can and often does change and the same goes for him especially when the “honeymoon” wears off. With him being deployed later in his time in the Navy you two will both have to work at your marriage and it gets hard when one is in the military regardless of branch but I do wish you both the best and hope you have a long and happy marriage. Problem is marriage is hard enough these days and when you add in long separation times and the angst of being a service member and/or a spouse it tends to create more problems than it solves for many married couples and were not even getting to the possibility of the “cheating” aspect yet. Welcome to the hard job of being a military spouse though and again I wish both of you the best and if you keep working at it and support each other you can be the exception to what others may deem as a general rule these days.
Yes it is possible for you to re-locate with him while at school. However, He has to ask for permission and go through his chain of command. DO NOT just show up or assume you can. With any relocation the primary worry is about financial well being. This cheating thing is more of a measure of the man rather than him being a Sailor (contrary to popular believe:P). I was in for 10 years best advice I can give is make a strong network of friends at whatever duty station you go to or go visit home. Being home sick without your Husband is a very tough task and a big cause of young marriages failing.
He’ll be goin across the street from bootcamp for school, for i went to that school also. though that school is for ETs, STSs. (ur husband must one of thoses im assuming) and i had to learn the concept but didnt need the whole course as they do. they will be living in the barracks, but my friend was married and had a car to go off base to see his wife….THOUGH i think his wife was pregnant..so this is the best info i can give u…good luck
He needs to speak to his recruiter immediately if you are getting married before he leaves for Boot Camp. He enlisted as Single with no dependents and would now be Married with 1 dependent. This can cause complications and if he shows up at Boot Camp with that information he can actually get discharged.
When he goes to Boot Camp he needs to take your marriage certificate, birth certificate and SSN Card (originals or certified copies). You will then be entered into DEERS and get the benefits of any other dependent. Meaning ID card, medical, dental, base access, and so on. When he goes to A School only if it is longer than 6 months in one location (Boot Camp time doesn’t count) then he might get accompanied orders meaning you can go with him. He then needs to complete BESS (Sub School) and then he will be assigned to a command. If the move is authorized then they will pay to move your things there and for you to travel there (vehicle if CONUS, flight if overseas). The first move you will have to pay out of pocket for travel and then get refunded, but your belongings will be packed by professional movers if you wish.
Submarines are more limited, it would be Groton, CT; Norfolk; VA; Kings Bay, GA: Bangor, WA; San Diego, CA; Pearl Harbor, HI or Guam that he could be stationed in. When he reports he can be on deployment immediately or home for a little while. It will vary depending on the type of submarine he is on and what they are doing. He can be gone 50% of the year or over 80% of the year. The Submarine community is a tight knit one and awesome to be a part of. You become part of a family and it does help. You will make friends that will become your family to be honest. When you get a chance take the Spouse 101 class that can help you understand a lot of things. When you get to the first command check out the FFSC (Fleet & Family Support Center) to find out what is offered in the community